Is there a character that is more hated by the writers of their show than Ross Geller of Friends? I don’t think there is. In 10 seasons, Ross was constantly abused by the writers. It all started in the pilot.
The first thing we learn about Ross is that he is divorced because his wife left him for another woman. That’s pretty bad. What makes it worse, however, is that everyone in his life, his friends and family included, try to make it seem like he should be ok with the fact that his wife announced that she was a lesbian and left him.
The best example of this is the episode where his ex-wife, Carol, marries her new lover, Susan. His own sister not only caters the event, but acts shocked and appalled that Ross says he’s not attending it. At one point she even tells him to get over it and help her prepare the food. Ross responded by saying that if Carol was marrying a man, none of them would be pushing him to go to the wedding. Instead of thinking about his response, his friends make a joke out of it with Joey saying that if Carol was marrying another guy, she’d be the worst lesbian ever.
But, if you think about it, Ross had a point. If Carol had left him for another man, nobody would have been taking her side. So, Carol gets a pass just because she’s a lesbian? She’s allowed to break his heart and devastate him because she left him for another woman instead of a man?
Look, I’m not saying she shouldn’t have left Ross. She should have. She did what she had to do to make herself happy. Staying with him out of guilt would only have made her miserable, which eventually would have made him miserable. I get that. I don’t blame her for leaving.
At the same time, however, she has to be held accountable for her actions. I’m pretty sure that somewhere in the series I heard them say that Ross and Carol were together for 7 years. That’s 7 years where she lied to him. She led him on and made him think that she felt the same way that he did. Then, when he was madly in love with her, and happy to be spend the rest of their lives together, she drops this bomb on him and leaves.
She does this to him and everyone he cares about is telling him to be ok with it? How hurtful is that?
And that’s just the beginning. Let’s see some of the other things the writers made Ross go through:
- They give him a monkey for no apparent reason.
- They turn him into a jealous wreck that ends up pushing Rachel away until the series finale.
- They make him get divorced two more times.
- The longer the series went on, the more mentally unstable he became.
- They had him admit that he had once been dumped during sex.
- They make him so desperate for sex that he tries to bang his cousin.
- They had him inadvertently make out with his sister.
There are more, but those are the ones that stick out to me. I mean, look at that list. Look at what they put him through. It’s brutal.